Bible/ Devotion Married Life

Speaking Love to Your Spouse – Gifts

So far we have discussed loving our spouses with Words of Affirmation and with Quality Time. Now it’s time to talk about Gifts!

People whose love language is Gifts may come off as being materialistic, but that’s really not the case! There are 3 main reasons that getting Gifts makes them feel loved. For one, it shows that you were thinking about them while you were apart. Secondly, it shows how much you have been paying attention to the things they like and need. It also tells the receiver that you value them because you spent your money on them, and the time it took to go and pick out the gift. People with this love language enjoy having the items as tokens to “remember you” by, or as physical representations of memories together. Having it makes them feel closer to you when you are away. They are your spouse’s treasures.

If your spouse speaks this particular love language, it will be important to remember their birthday, your anniversary, Christmas, and other special events. Not doing so will make them feel forgotten and not cared for. However, those should not be the only times you give to them! Random gifts are wonderful too and say, “I was thinking about you while I was out. I love you!” Also, giving them things that they don’t need or wouldn’t like is offensive to them. It leads them to believe that you don’t bother to pay attention to or remember what they enjoy. Don’t be afraid to ask them what things they may like or want or need. It shows that you care enough to want to make them feel happy and loved.

The item you pick out for your spouse doesn’t have to be big and expensive. It can be home made, picked up from a garage sale, or purchased at a convenience store. What makes it special is that you knew it would be something they like, and you spent your time and money securing it just for them! Gift cards and certificates can be good or bad gifts, depending on what they are for, so be careful! A card for a favorite restaurant may be good, but one for a grocery store could be too impersonal and sort of offensive to some.

Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about gifts.

James 1:17 says “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning.” The only reason we can give or receive gifts is because God has given us these things first.

James 1:5 tells us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.” If we need wisdom about anything, God will give it to us! That includes wisdom about how to speak love to our spouses. In the case of this love language, it includes wisdom in picking out something that is just right for them! If you need help, don’t hesitate to pray!

If you are looking for more inspiration on exactly what Gifts to give your spouse, I have some ideas to share with you!

  • Pictures of you or other loved ones in a special frame
  • Their favorite snack
  • A key chain with their favorite Bible verse on it
  • Jewelry designed just for them
  • Personalized office supplies
  • A throw pillow or blanket in their favorite color/ design
  • Something you made, like a hand painted jewelry box, pajama pants you sewed, etc.
  • Something to add to a collection
  • A specific type of coffee, creamer, tea, or soda they really like
  • Gift basket filled with a certain theme of items, like a “baker basket” or a “handy man” basket
  • Their favorite cologne or perfume
  • Something they need, to replace something that is broken or lost
  • A gift certificate for something specific, like a massage or a craft store

Is this your or your spouse’s love language? Do you have any gift ideas you would add to this list? Share them with us in the comments!

If you haven’t found the right love language yet, try my posts on Physical Touch and Acts of Service!

5 thoughts on “Speaking Love to Your Spouse – Gifts

  1. Such a practical post! Great suggestions here, and I’m thankful my husband does not have the gift of giving gifts because he’s way too picky for me to buy for 🙂

  2. Great explanation of this love language! I’m often weary to tell people that gifts is one of my top love languages because of the impression of materialism. You put it in a great way!

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